Good evening all! Let’s catch up!
It’s been 9 weeks since my mom passed away, and the reality of her not being here has fully set in. The autopilot days are long gone and I find myself thinking about her more and more throughout the day. But the one place I can’t do that, is the barn. My attention needs to be focused on what I’m doing, so being around the horses is helping with my grief.
I am proudly riding Copper 4 days a week! My 48yr old body is adjusting nicely to the increased exercise. I lesson 3 of those days and the 4th day Copper and I ride solo. Our partnership has grown…in HUGE LEAPS! We are now jumping cross rails. We are cantering more. We are listening to each other. We are supporting each other. And man, it feels amazing.
What has lead to this somewhat instant display of confidence you ask? Well, besides trusting him, I trust myself. For the first time since I’ve been riding (8 1/2 years now) , I have trust in myself, trust in my abilities, trust in knowing when I’m nervous (which is totally OK and normal) and trust in who I am as a rider, and I have found my voice.
My voice. I am the strongest advocate for my family and of course for my horses. But I wasn’t ever a good advocate for myself. I often found myself not expressing my feelings, for a variety of reasons, being shy, not wanting to admit I couldn’t keep up with other riders, so you, know, you do your best to fake it. Well, that doesn’t work out for you EVER. Even though I’ve made improvement in that area, it wasn’t enough. After my mom passed, suddenly I found my voice. It was always there, but something is different now. I feel as though I want to show my mom, what an incredible human she raised. Oh don’t worry, she told me all the time, especially the last few weeks before she passed just how proud of me she was, and how she was so thankful I found my passion in life. But without her here, I feel like I have something to prove to myself. And that is what’s different with my riding these days.
I speak up when my wonderful trainer asks me if I want to try something I haven’t done before. Most times, I say yes. But it’s OK to say no, I’m not comfortable with that just yet. Because I know I will be comfortable with it in a few weeks, and that’s fine.
My new found voice is also helping with listening to Copper. I know, how strange is that…my voice is helping me listen to Copper. Let me explain. When I feel him getting nervous about something, or I see that he is paying attention to something other than myself, I speak to him in the language he understands and shift gears a bit and will do something to get his focus back. Just today, 2 birds were flying very low to us, and Copper got nervous so I did a bit of leg yield to get him focused on me and we avoided a potential spook…although I did get covered in bird poop 🤣, but Copper was totally relaxed which is all that mattered. I’ve known for years what to do when you feel your horse isn’t listening to you because they are focused on something else, but I finally found my strong voice to actually act upon it.
Little Flame. Little Flame is doing great. He is learning to expand his circle of trust with 2 more barn employees. Both women are working with him, leading him around the barn, our “walkabout”-working on building a strong foundation of trust which will benefit him when he and Alfie can be turned back outside in their paddock. The weather is getting warmer and both boys are anxious to be outside, but this process is one that I refuse to rush through. Again, here is me using my voice. I am making choices to set both Flame and his handlers up for success. When everyone handling him feels confident, and Flame is confident in knowing what is expected of him – no bolting, allowing himself to be caught and brought in for turn-in, then everyone is happy and safe.
Alfie. Alfie is Alfie, his days are spent playing with Flame in the arena, napping and begging for treats. 😊
Alfie has navicular, a condition that is common in older horses, and because of that, he requires shoes on his front feet. In the late fall Alfie had his shoes pulled off due to an issue with his heel. Since he was going to be in the arena all winter and wouldn’t have to deal with hard frozen ground, being barefoot wasn’t an issue. In fact, he’s totally 100% sound (he has no lameness). The issue with his heel is slowly starting to correct itself but shoes right now are not a great option. The hope is he can stay barefoot once he and Flame are back outside in their paddock.
The last 9 weeks have changed me, on all levels. I am growing as a person. The ones that sense this the most are my horses. I have seen such a positive change in all of them. They are growing with me.❤️🐴